The more you try to control something, the more it controls you.
It’s ironic, but it’s true.
We strive for control in so many aspects of our lives, from our diet to relationships to work life & to less tangible things, like our thoughts & behaviours.
When we don’t feel in control, we feel inadequate & before we know it, we fall into a vicious cycle where all we care for is maintaining that control, so we sacrifice our health, relationships & our sanity until we realize the one thing that drove us there is the one thing we thought we wanted so badly: CONTROL.
In the grand scheme of things, WHAT’S ALL THE DOING FOR?
It’s fine to be ambitious, to seek challenge & to be a go-getter, but those things don’t have to mean you jeopardize your health.
Sometimes, we need to learn to free ourselves & let things take their natural course. Sometimes, that means accepting that we need breaks, time to be with ourselves, to leave room for uncertainty, to not nitpick every little detail, to stop overthinking & to just breathe.
Truth is, things will happen as they are meant to. As cliché as it sounds, everything really does fall into place.
And yes, sometimes, as those things happen & naturally take their course, we might not be able to control every little detail. Here I am preaching to the choir as I consciously work on getting to a place where I’m okay with that.
Slowly but surely, I’m making progress. I can’t say it’s particularly easy to let go or to just be with myself, but then again, a goal needs to be challenging for the result to be worthwhile.
That feeling where you get anxious & jittery if you feel a loss of control doesn’t have to take up so much space in your life. It doesn’t have to dominate you. You just have to be kind to yourself & learn that it’s okay if some days, you’re less productive or you don’t get it all done.
Our bodies are vessels that carry us through life & sometimes, those vessels need that be put on park & be given a break.
What are you doing today to give your body that break?