Today, I’m going back to another therapy appointment.
People often ask me if I think therapy really works.
I can only speak from my personal experience when I say it changed my life. For the better.
But the question is valid. Can sitting in front of a complete stranger for an hour & retelling your life story really make all the things burdening & hurting you go away? No. It can’t. Truth is, that one hour of therapy is just the stepping stone, the foot in the door…
First, I want you to know that you’re not a problem to be fixed. You have problems to fix & guess what? WE ALL DO. For therapy to work, you need to know that & not put yourself down.
Second, you need to be willing to put in the work for the remaining 23 hours in the day where you’re not being guided by a professional. Those 23 hours are what determine if it’ll work. You need to actively take what you learn in that one hour & implement it into your life from that point on.
Knowledge is one thing, changing your behaviour in response to it is another. Therapy isn’t going to change your life if you don’t let it. Like anything in life, you need to WANT it enough to be willing to commit to it wholeheartedly.
It’s not magic, a quick fix or a bandaid. If you want to permanently fix what’s broken, you must use the tools you’ve been given.
Before I found the therapist who helped me, I saw another one specialized in eating disorders & guess what? It didn’t work because I didn’t feel secure or comfortable in my relationship with that therapist & in turn, I was less inclined to trust & implement what I learned. I went to my sessions, sat through them & it all went in one ear & out the other.
Eventually, I stopped going altogether. I lied & pretended I was held up at work, or not feeling well when I just didn’t feel like sitting through something that made me feel worse about my situation.
It’s only when I actively took it upon myself to be responsible about my health & admit that it wasn’t working that I was able to turn things around. You might not find the therapist who betters your life on your first try. It might even take 2 or 3 tries. But if you don’t give up, I promise, it’ll happen.
Don’t give up. I’m rooting for you.
If you want to read more about my experience with therapy, click on the links below:
- Why I Went Back To Therapy & The Top 5 Ways I Found Mental Stability.
- Why You Might Lie Your Way Through Therapy Before It Starts To Work & Why You Shouldn’t Beat Yourself Up Over It.
- Sometimes, Even The Sharpest Tools In The Shed Need Help & That’s Okay.
- Another Eating Disorder Myth & Why We NEED You More Than We Show.
- How To Know You’ve Found “The One” & By “The One”, I Mean, THERAPIST!
- Overcoming Fear & Letting Go of My Eating Disorder & … Everything Else a.k.a. The-Best-Feeling-In-The-World