Let’s talk about INSECURITIES. We all have them.
Whether they have to do with our physical appearance or abilities, our mental state of mind, success at work, school in life or our adequacy at maintaining friendships or relationships, insecurities are something we all deal with.
We’re all our own worst critic & truth is, no matter how good we have it, we always want it better.
I speak for myself when I say that NOTHING is ever good enough. My perfectionist tendencies mean I constantly push myself to do & be better even when I know I should be content with where I am in the now. I’ve done this my whole life: school, work, relationships…
This constant drive for more, better & best is great if it isn’t taken too far. It’s a sign of ambition, commitment & determination. But when taken too far, I realized that it can also contribute to the creation of my own insecurities. That’s why perfectionism is a double-edged sword. It’s all about how you use it.
Faced with unrealistic standards to be better, I sometimes put so much pressure on myself to attain them that I lose sight of what truly matters: Living in the present moment & being grateful for where I am right now.
Instead of commending myself for my state of mind or accomplishments in the present, I’m always thinking two steps ahead. How can I do better tomorrow? In a week or month from now?
So, here’s something I’m consciously working on: Not letting my perfectionist tendencies be the fuel for creating or strengthening my already existing insecurities & finding a balance between striving to be the best version of myself but also being proud of the version I am right now. It all boils down to fighting my self-inflicted insecurities as opposed to feeding them & doing so with the knowledge that they are the only real thing holding me back.
My message to you is to rise above your insecurities. Don’t be afraid to admit that sometimes, they feel more powerful than you. Awareness is the first step. Then, find SECURITY in knowing that the thoughts you fuel your mind with are more powerful.
Fuel them wisely.