I know you looked in the mirror today & you were overly self-critical. I know you pointed out at least 1 thing you wish you could change. I did too.
Everyone preaches “Embrace your body for all that it is” like it comes with such ease & so naturally. I’m guilty of preaching that too. But fact is, it’s FAR FROM EASY.
There are so many reasons why we engage in self-criticism, some of which are linked to the way our brains are wired, perspective & mindset & others, which are linked to societal norms & standards.
You can’t change societal norms or standards.
But, what you can change is the way your brain reacts to them & the perspective & mindset you choose to adopt in response to them. You don’t have to give into them if you don’t want to.
A huge part of removing negative self-talk from your life is actively speaking words of kindness to yourself. It’s so easy to be quick to judge others, but even more so, to be quick to judge ourselves.
STOP TRYING TO FIX YOURSELF & START TRYING TO LOVE YOURSELF.
It’s no secret that there’s always going to be room for improvement & there will always be things about ourselves that we don’t like. Without the challenge to be & do better, life would be boring & there’s absolutely nothing wrong with hustling, being ambitious & striving for better. There is, however, something wrong with the idea that just because you aren’t there yet, you need to be fixed. LET GO OF THAT MENTALITY.
We go through life forming hundreds of relationships with friends, co-workers, acquaintances, romantic partners & through the formation & sometimes, the end of these relationships, we learn that people come & go at any moment.
There’s only ONE relationship that is forever permanent throughout the entirety of our lives & that’s our relationship with OURSELVES. If that relationship is tainted with feelings of self-hate, negativity, guilt, dislike & emotional distance, every relationship around us suffers!
Self-love is key to overall well being. The more we learn about ourselves & our bodies, the more we accept, understand & appreciate ourselves, the more we thrive.
Tomorrow when you look in the mirror, say “I love you” & mean it. Before you invest in any other relationship, invest in the one with yourself. It’s the most valuable.