This week is all about debunking eating disorder myths & raising awareness.
I know how discouraging it can be to offer help, support & love to your loved ones when you see them suffer & to see them turn it down.
I also know how hard it is to try to convince them that therapy will help them heal. It’s not because your loved ones shut you out that they don’t love you or know you care.
It’s not because they deny the help that they don’t desperately need it. Isolation, denial, repression of emotion & hostility are all a part of the way EDs work.
Don’t be fooled into thinking your support isn’t appreciated.
Don’t be fooled into thinking we don’t love you & most importantly, don’t be fooled into stopping to show us that you’re there. As much as we deny it, WE NEED YOU.
You see us crumbling & it breaks your heart. We see ourselves crumbling & it shatters us but we’re HELPLESS.
Sometimes, we have difficulty recognizing we’re ill or appreciating the severity of our situation.
Sometimes, we desperately want to stop our behaviours but we’re afraid to let go of our eating disorder.
SOMETIMES, WE NEED TO BE PUSHED.
Treatment doesn’t need to wait for your loved one to be ready. The truth of the matter is by the time we’re ready, it’s usually too late.
I was ready in February 2017. At that point, I had developed bradycardia, osteopenia, left my job because I was too weak to get there by train in the morning & too ill to focus or concentrate & I weighed a measly 75 pounds.
Safe to say, I reached what one would call “the point of no return”.
Truth be told, if it weren’t for my family, interventions, phone calls, text messages, expressions of concern & worry, I don’t know if I would’ve even been ready then. I don’t even know if I’d be here today.
As much as I cried, shut them out & told them to leave me alone, that I was fine & to never bring it up again, every single time they reached out to me, it made me a little more ready to seek help. It was a very slow build-up & in retrospect, I wish I had the courage to seek it sooner. But, NO REGRETS.
Today, I’m thankful that I sought it altogether & I couldn’t have done it without them.
They showed me that no matter how alone I felt, they were in it with me. They never let me down or gave up on me, no matter how much I shut them out & how hard it was to watch me slowly kill myself. They taught me the true value in being there in good times & in bad & they gave me hope. They gave me hope that I had the strength to recover & that I had the willpower to do it. I just had to find it. And it’s thanks to them that I did.
So today, if I can inspire you with one thought, it’s to KEEP PUSHING, even if it means you have to be upfront & honest with your loved one.
KEEP ENCOURAGING THEM TO SEEK HELP.
Keep reminding them of the severity of their situation.
Keep preaching to them about the life they could live without their eating disorder.
Keep telling them you love them.
Keep showing them you care.
Keep supporting them.
Keep at it. No matter how hard it is, let them know they don’t have to fight alone. Let them know that they have a voice against ED & that you can be a part of that voice. Let them know they have you.
They need it more than you know & MORE THAN THEY SHOW.