Last night, Oprah gave her acceptance speech for the Cecil B. DeMille Award at the 2018 Golden Globe Awards & I am mindblown.
“Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we all have. I’m especially proud & inspired by all the women who have felt strong & empowered enough to speak up & share their personal stories. Each of us in this room are celebrated because of the stories that we tell, and this year we became the story (…).
I interviewed & portrayed people who’ve withstood the ugliest things life can throw at you, but the one quality all of them share is an ability to maintain hope for a brighter morning, even during our darkest nights. I want all the girls watching to know that a new day is on the horizon! When that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women & some pretty phenomenal men, fighting hard to make sure that they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say “Me too” again“.
This speech speaks wonders to me because so many people ask me how I’m so comfortable sharing my personal life, struggles & challenges on social media. Pretty valid question.
I’m sharing my story & speaking up about my eating disorder, divorce, body image struggles & my mom leaving this world way too soon because I want my story to HELP YOU HELP YOURSELF. I want you to take something from it, whatever it is. I want to stop you in your tracks & prevent you from going through what I overcame.
I want you to wake up everyday & be happy & feel strong. I want you to appreciate the gift of life & to find comfort & strength in knowing that you are defined by MORE than what you’re going through or suffering from. Some of the things that happened to me in the past few years were completely in my control, others were entirely out of my hands.
But that doesn’t change the fact that all those things happened. This year, in the words of Oprah, I became my story BUT MY STORY DOES NOT DEFINE ME.
I had anorexia, but I’m not my eating disorder.
I’m getting a divorce, but that doesn’t mean I’ll never love again.
I deal with body image struggles but that doesn’t undermine or take away from my strength or my recovery.
My mom left this world way too soon but she’s with me everyday.
I could very well keep all these things a secret. refrain from sharing, internalize them & not face reality because it’s not PERFECT. I could stop speaking my truth out of fear of judgment or criticism.
But I could also SHARE my story, FACE my truth & TALK about it, in hopes of having a small impact on just one of your lives.
In hopes of showing you that challenge, obstacles, setbacks, adversity & hardships do not mean there will be never be light, joy or happiness again.
In hopes of showing you that no matter how broken you are, you will be whole again.
In hopes of showing you that no matter how much of a low you feel you’ve reached, no matter how hopeless you are for a brighter tomorrow, that low & that hopelessness do not define you & there is always a way to turn things around. YOU JUST HAVE TO WANT IT.
So yes, sharing my story shows the world I am vulnerable, that I struggle & that I don’t live a perfect life.
But more importantly, it shows you that I AM HUMAN & that I know what it feels like to be in pain, to live through heartbreak, to feel out of control & to break down.
But I also know what it feels like to RECOVER from that pain, heartbreak, lack of control & breakdown. I know what it feels like to be happy, healthy, whole, in control, comfortable, relieved & ready to love again.
My loves, the future is shining so bright.
There is so much waiting for you.
There is so much life left to be lived.
Please, wherever you are in this world, whatever you are feeling, know that you deserve to live it.
Find your strength.
Strive for that life & THEN LIVE IT.